I met an intelligent, kind, and strong young lady around my age that seems to have a lot in common with me. First off, we are here for the same charge and it is her first of any charges as well. In her accident, a motorcyclist who was intoxicated, speeding, crashed into her car and passed. Alcohol was found to be in her blood as well though, and she took a plea offer for 5 years with 85%. She is trying to appeal her sentence because the prosecutor originally promised her 3 years like me, but went back on his word at sentencing.
What makes us have more in common, though, is our view and outlook on life since our accidents. Perhaps it has to do with us being born only one day apart in the same month, sharing characteristics of the same zodiac. Perhaps it has to do with our upbringing and inner strengths. Either way, she's the first other person I've met here that has acknowledged how much she's grateful for, has learned and grown and taken as much positive as possible from the tragedies life has thrown at us, and waits to make a difference in the future by living for others in addition to herself and trying to help others so they might not have to learn things the hard way. Although it wasn't her friend that she lost, its nice talking to someone who somewhat knows how I feel and is determined and uplifting. Maybe in the future, we can speak to young adults together or try to get new laws passed to help prevent as many future accidents as possible.
No matter what the reason is that women have ended up here in prison, it is most important that they learn from it and move forward in life. It's unfortunate that most of these women have yet to do so, either because of lack of willpower, denial, lack of love in their life, hope, knowledge, etc. Some just don't give a shit about anything. Others try to but don't believe they have enough strength to change. All I know is it's rare to meet another who stays positive as much as she can, who is adamant about making a difference and learning from everything life throws at us, who is fortunate to have love and support in her life as well and move than willing to share that love and hope with those that don't. With that, I feel slightly less alone.....
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You are an absolutely horrible person. Do you have any idea how disrespectful this is of the friend who's death you were responsible for? I don't know how you have the nerve to state that other people have denial when you've created a blog about how positive your life has been and how much you've learned since being sentence with a death related charge. This is probably the worst tribute to a dead friend that has ever been made. You need to take a step back and admit your guilt before your denial becomes so rooted in your personality that you can never get back your humanity.
ReplyDeleteThe girl you met in reception is my best friend, and I've been so worried about the people she would encounter... but reading this made me feel some comfort. I'm glad (for lack of a better word) that the two of you found eachother and can relate and help one another. If you could tell her that Megan loves her next time you see her it would be much appreaciated. Bless you.
ReplyDeleteTo the girl who's best friend is incarcerated as well, I will be sure to pass along your message! I know what you mean when you say you feel comforted by the fact these two girls at least have each other to lean on thru such a difficult time. It's hard to stay strong and move past mistakes that have been made when it seems like everyone around you wants to bring you down. All we can do is keep giving unconditional love and support to our friends.
ReplyDeleteThis is directed at the anonymous author of the first comment. I think you should take a closer look at your self and pray to God for him to make you less judgemental, narrow minded and not so cowardly. Can you really tell a person's whole feelings of guilt and sorrow from a blog they post about trying to see the positive side of things in a negative environment? Wow, it's apparent how unintelligent you are to take a blog at just face value. I guess it's hard for you to imagine how a person would feel if they lost their best friend from a car accident. Don't you think she thinks about her every day. There are reminders everywhere. Do you think she should never smile, or see the positive in life. Should she walk around crying and suicidal all the time? I can tell you she went through that period, and she still has those moments. You have no idea what you're saying, so you should stop acting so perfect and judgemental.
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